Smart Entrepreneurs Realize How To Be In The Flow

by P.Britton on October 14, 2011

in COACHING, HAPPINESS PSYCHOLOGY, MINDSET COACHING

 

Catch some sunlight and go with your flow!

Aristotle once said that more than anything in life we humans seek happiness.

The Dalai Lama also writes about happiness, referring to it as an art.

One thing for sure, there is a certain flow to life that simply moves us along in a way that provides each of us with maximum enjoyment, and specific to our individual needs.  Once we begin to pay attention to what it is that we truly value, we naturally progress towards more and more happiness and peace.

Yet, as we move happily forward in the direction of our dreams, it’s a given that we will continue to desire material things–(we sometimes even say we would “die for” these things)–beauty, fancy cars, nice clothes, a loving family, a meaningful career, power–the list never ends!

Yet what we are searching for in the center of this race toward being, doing and having more and more of these ‘shiny objects’ is something we believe is at their root–yes, you guessed it…We are seeking happiness in everything we do, in every activity of our lives.

And how are we to find this happiness when life brings us all kinds of suffering, angst, sadness and loss?

A colleague once shared some  words of wisdom with me a few years ago when I was faced with a difficult decision at work.  She said I would be fine if I would just “trust life’s processes and surrender to its flow.”  I have never forgotten her words (or her)!

The originator of this idea of “flow” is a Hungarian professor, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, (pronounced chick-sent-me-high-ee). In his book, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, published in 1990, he describes flow as  a state of concentration or complete absorption in what we are doing.

The flow state is one in which we get so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter.

You will know when you are in your flow because you lose track of time–which I am doing  as I am writing this article–it’s way past my bedtime!   I share my process with you with an awareness that you have also experienced times when creative energy is flowing freely.  During these times we can produce great things for our businesses–ebooks, reports, articles, sales pages, emails to subscribers, new ideas for future projects and lots more!

However, more often than not,  (truth be told!) I struggle to write original content, procrastinate,  and search for just the right subject to share with you.  Yet, once I get focused and set an intention to begin the project, it all seems to come together nicely. The post gets written as I’ve connected the writing to the thought that you will find these topics useful!

When our entire being is involved in the process we find the flow.  Then we can create products and services which others find unique, useful and meaningful to their lives.

Csikszentmihalyi says that the reason we get so caught up and blissed out during flow states is that we have achieved the perfect balance between the high level of challenge of the task and our own skill levels.  But, if what we are doing is either too easy or too difficult, the flow is not going to happen and we become apathetic and bored.

Both our own skill level and the level of the challenge before us must match AND they both must be high in order to achieve ‘flow’ and optimal experience.  When we are in the flow we are using our skills to the utmost!

So, Happy Flow-Finding, Fellow Entrepreneurs!

Peace,

Pam :)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

{ 23 comments… read them below or add one }

  • Thank you for sharing about the flow and happiness. It gave me a new way to think to find the maximum of happiness in what I do. Your article was well written and helpful. I appreciate the way that you shared with us.

  • P.Britton says:

    Dear Ann,
    Yes, when we think in new ways we challenge ourselves more and enhance the quality of our experience–so glad you liked the post!

  • I love this concept
    “trust life’s processes and surrender to its flow.”
    I have been working with it for years.
    Have you read “Illusions” by Richard Bach?
    There are animals that cling to the riverbanks and then one
    of the animals lets go. To Flow.
    I read that book decades ago and I have been practicing that
    ever since. But the letting go…the unknown, the trusting is a challenge.
    I intellectually get the trusting..But, viscerally? it is still something I work on.
    And now that I have started writing can I say I enjoy the trusting it is the discerning that is the challenge. The knowing when to let go and flow!
    That is what I am working on! Do you have articles or suggestions on discernment? 😉

  • P.Britton says:

    Hey there, Michelle!

    I was so glad to read your post this afternoon. You know, I have not yet read Bach’s book, Illusions. The first and only book by Bach that I’ve read is the seminal book, Jonathan Livingston Seagull. I know that we do tend to magnetize into our lives whatever it is that we are consistently holding in our thoughts, so I keep as reality-oriented as possible–Illusions sounds intriguing, maybe I should give it a read!

    May Your Week Be Well,
    Pam

  • Great post Pam. I have had to learn this lesson the hard way. Now I relinquish control and let things flow.

    • P.Britton says:

      Hi Wade,

      Yeah, life’s experiences do teach us ‘the hard way’ as you say, that letting go is sometimes the wisest thing to do. As Michelle said in an earlier post, it is difficult to discern when to let go and when to hold on. I have a “too much suffering” gauge that keeps me in check. If I become aware of too much unhappiness or consistently high stress associated with a situation, I tend to let go rather than hold on. This method works pretty well for me. If I need to return to the situation again, then I do, if it seems like the right thing to do at the time..pretty simple, really!

      Smiling,

      Pam :)

  • Rochelle says:

    Thank you so much for this post Pam.
    I agree- as humans we all try seek happiness.
    Well put, you truly are an amazing writer.
    This has given me a new outlook on life.
    Hope you have a great day.
    Rochelle. :)

  • P.Britton says:

    Hello Rochelle,

    I’m glad my writing has had a positive effect on your life and your outlook on your life–you were created to have a new outlook on life!

    Happiness is All Around You,

    Pam :)

  • dollarkurs says:

    Write more, thats all I have to say. Literally, it seems as though you relied on the video to make your point. You clearly know what youre talking about, why throw away your intelligence on just posting videos to your site when you could be giving us something informative to read?

    • P.Britton says:

      Hello Dollarkurs,

      Okay, I’ll write more–you’re quite the persuasive one (haha)…not sure about your “relying on the video” comment. I do plan to add audio content to my posts and for my subscribers (soon)…so stay tuned!

      To Your Happiness,

      Pam :)

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    • P.Britton says:

      Good Afternoon, Verkauft,

      It’s a great feeling to know you appreciate the info I’m providing. Thanks for your positive comment!

      Keep On Keeping On!

      Pam :)

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